Have a taste of life with usual mind
What is meant by one? Say it is the usual mind.
Fair often the heart conducts oneself in society, establishes in an unassailable position.
Let nature take its course,can quiet,more cause far.
The world of usual mind is limitless, fill with everything.
Although usual mind is three simple words, in life, it is everybody’s difficult transcendental banks, because we do not understand what is the real usual mind, do not understand either how to come to keep one’s own usual mind, do not understand how to utilize usual mind still more.
Usual mind should first for kinds of mental state,not only treat there aren’t environment around, not saddened by personnal losses “, accomplish ” remain indifferent whether granted favors or subjected to humiliation and go or stay to have no intention ” to the personnel around even more, in this way could let life of us have one calm and harmonious.
Unless secondly, usual mind too one kinds of realm,the intelligent can master Yun Zeng: ” whether have one thing actually, where dye dust “, he such outside the detached thing, the self-transcending realm was exactly the best explanation of the usual mind.
They are not ” disillusioned with the mortal world “, not even leave the world passively, the opposite what they should display is a kind of positive psychology, with usual mind view unusual thing, everything happy and carefree when not having have, usually then.
Remember that has ever asked alone a Buddhist monk says: “The Buddhist monk practises Buddhism or Taoism, is it diligent? “Buddhist monk answer:” Diligent. “that piece person again asked:” How diligent is it? “Buddhist monk answer:” Have a meal hungrily, sleep tiredly promptly. “say person very much strangely ground:” Assorted? Am not I as very diligent as you? “Buddhist monk laugh at answer:” You are different from certainly we, you did not have a meal carefully when should have a meal, did not sleep carefully when it’s time to go to bed, a thousand kinds are cared about all day, consider all the different kindsly, the heart is not quiet, how is it? It is diligent to be named? How it can be regarded as and practise Buddhism or Taoism? “
So far we understand, what real usual mind is enjoyed in life is ordinary and simple, so long as can put the psychology steadily, don’t be interfered with by the external turmoil, have a real usual mind.
Usual mind is inestimable in the strength that produces when being appropriate.
Generally speaking, keep there can be the following advantages in a good usual mind:
First, usual mind can increase personal glamour.
The person with a usual mind is often a large-minded person, it is to smile to treat others’ mistake or misunderstand coolly, ignore, they do not underestimate the other side, but is a kind of silent understanding, they have achieved the goal of hitting two hawks with one arrow to the maintenance of one’s own image virtually, so this kind of people’s image glamour is disseminated and driven to while smiling in this kind of silent one coolly. By contrast, the same goes for person with whom the other side make a scene!
As the saying goes: The person either lunatic quarrelling with a lunatic is neuropathy,
In addition, can adopt the psychology of a kind of gentle disposition to the commendation of the other side, does not refuse this kind of compliment absolutely, not even accept this kind of commendation joyfully, what they only wanted to display is only this gentle heart of oneself, so this kind of people’s personality glamour has been already leaving very deep impression in the mind of the other side virtually.
Second, usual mind can leave a impression of sincerity on somebody.
The person without usual mind is often a vain person, say various righteous and honourable words in order to publicize oneself every day, do various moves against one’s will, leave a kind of dishonest impression on the people around as time passes, especially under the enticement of name and profit, they can not control oneself especially, do the things of some trivial skills regardless of prestige.
The person with usual mind is totally opposite, they conduct oneself open and aboveboardly, can neither cover up, nor it does things to be broad and level non- false too messy trick in front of fame and gain, it diminishes honorary thing to do some. They watch the reputation than assorted? Heavy, can intend, go damage one’s own reputation, so the people often can give the other side impression to sow sincerity.
Third, there is a usual mind, can let us face one’s own shortcoming and deficiency, and often introspect.
The person with usual mind will not cover up one’s own shortcoming, opposite they will put a true oneself before people around’s eyes, hope the people around can choose the insufficient and place deficient for them, carry on oneself and introspect when when they know how to want, really let oneself down, in other words, but can very oneself clearly see, and is examining oneself constantly, make sure to understand oneself sincerely and unselfishly.
This kind of people is more rational, they generally seldom make mistakes, because they know oneself well, know one’s own advantage well, know one’s own shortcoming well too, can well make sure very natural and receiving any restraint, know oneself should be done assortedly? ,Can do assortedly? ,Know too how to accord with one’s own individual character even more.
Come in life, it is not perfect, but it will be that you move towards perfect motive force to keep a usual mind.
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It takes the intelligence life of humorous sculpture
The humour is a kind of strength, and intelligence is a kind of realm. If a mother is good at studying and creating, it is not merely a dream to give birth to children happily.
A mother is very full of wisdom, tell a story to the daughter each time, she will follow one’s own feeling to create extempore, change the frame of the story, or join a lot of new details, lines.
Such as the story of the small red cap, while talking about the small red cap meets the grandmother that the lobo disguises oneself as, it is to giving free of charge in the two people one it is the countless since it make a change she all over.
Grandmother, how do your teeth become so yellow?
Because has forgotten to brush teeth!
Why is your nail so long?
Because has not trimmed the nails.
Why is your stomach so big?
Because has not taken exercises!
Her daughters will all be bantered overwhelmed with joyly by the new lines and story plot each time, subsequently, the daughter asks: ‘ the grandmother, why are your teeth so sharp? ‘
She disguises as the lobo and answers: ‘ in order to take you! ‘
Until toot, one swallow, go into stomach light red cap ‘, the mother first embraces the daughter in one’s arms. Tell a story, smile, make a noise, wind up, say hunter appear, come, save light red plot of cap later on always always each time, but her daughter is very happy, 12 points of satisfaction.
Dance with little humorous story
The humour is a kind of strength, and intelligence is a kind of realm. If a mother is good at studying and creating, it is not merely a dream to give birth to children happily.
When the daughter has breakfast, I will often tell her a little story adapted:
A long time ago, deep-fried twisted dough sticks and steamed bun were good friends. Later on they were separated.
One day, two good friends who have disappeared for a long time have met, they are overjoyed.
The deep-fried twisted dough sticks is said: ‘ good brother, you become so fat, I recognize you too! ‘
The steamed bun is said: ‘ you become so thin I recognize you too! ‘
One day, the steamed bun meets the instant noodles on the road, he says:
I can recognize you if you think you have had a perm? ‘
Talking about this each time, the daughters all laugh heartily.
A lot of family have a meal and worry carefully for child, ‘ build good atmosphere of having dinner at the dining table ‘, this proper arrangement theory almost all the parents know, but do we really try every possible means to accomplish?
If we planned to educate oneself the child’s content originally, joined in the little humorous story ingeniously, result will fine, this’s residing, teaching on happy real.
Dissolve the conflict with the humour
Remember after American former president Reagan is attacked by an assassin, his wife Nancy arrives in time, severely injured Reagan says to Nancy: ‘ my dear, I forget to avoid! ‘ the president’s humour not only makes his wife feel and comfort fully, but also the steady political situation at that time, because American people fully believe in the president so rich in sense of humour and can unquestionably hold out through this barrier.
While getting along with the daughter, I will often meet some conflicts too, after having a long holidy, she kindergarten at being unwilling, get up early her to be unwilling to dress some garment. What is to be done? It is useless to curse and beat, her individual character is very strong, do not eat ways to do things.
My tactics are to play the role playing game together with her. I will try to let her work as mother, let me play the role of the baby, express negative mood such as the discontent of her heart in exaggerative body language, she can’t help laughing while looking. Then, we change the role back, I, as mother, she has become the baby, the reasonableness which she will display specially at this moment, the cooperation very much, walked back and forth Buddha grew up a lot quickly.
The game will bring happiness to somebody, but more important, the child has learnt in this interesting course that looks at problem from another angle, having experienced the feeling of the other side, these, life to her is very important.
To child, overstating, attention very apt to attract him of body language with very strong sense of humour, I often think, if every mother can study several methods from clown, the course of giving birth to children will become lively, very witty easily. Say, the clown can be the people parents’ teachers as us too from this floor of meaning.
It is optimistic to study the humour, study
‘ two people look outside the window together. What the optimistic one is seen is the stars all over the sky, what the pessimistic one is seen is a pile of mud on the ground. ‘
Do not we hope own child for happy life in the future? Then how could let them succeed and happy in the future? A large amount of research shows: The optimistic one is apter to succeed!
So to a child, can create future while being optimistic. This is a gold key that must grasp for people parents.
Since present, it is optimistic to learn the humour, learn together with child, study the humour of using in the intelligence life of sculpture!
Martin of American psychologist Dr. point out among the book in ” learn optimistic “:
‘ children’s pessimism comes from his mother, they, from the adult to learning the pessimistic idea in their criticism too. ‘
The family is the child’s first school. Are you good at using the humour to dissolve the conflict? Do you treat everything in life with the optimistic, positive life attitude? These, will become child’s potential study contents, the life influence on him will be far-reaching.
How to make oneself and child all more optimistically and be rich in sense of humour?
I think, it is all right since beginning to do in some life minor matters for us.
1,Collect little humorous story suitable for the child or laughing at,etc., collect especially humorous scene about the animal of some humorous photos, the child will often like very much.
2,Set up one ‘ laugh at time ‘, share those photos and stories together with whole family. Encourage child speak laughable thing that oneself take place of life or kindergarten.
3,Often tell some things making people happy on the dining table. Begin parents and collect some life materials carefully, as time passes, form a kind of habit.
4,If find the child has negative mood, try to let him express one’s own feeling in the picture or language, pay attention to his feeling, accept his feeling and mood, tries to find out the reason, then help him to release negative mood by way of game: For example play and throw the pillow game away together, replace monsters with the plastic bag, hit ‘ the monster ‘ together. While making a fun, so worried as to just disappear in a flash.
Grasp and apply skilfully as you skill the above, you will find child to be own to have obvious change very, become so more happy, more easy as to study, at this moment, your responsibility is to lead the growing child to realize the meaning behind strength and story of the humorous back.
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